Miscommunication

I sometimes wonder if people are deliberately trying to annoy me! The agencies don't talk to each other, people have false information and then people say one thing to your face and then another to someone else and when it comes back to you, you're the one to be made a fool of and I sometimes wonder if people think I am just interfering! I wish we would all stop messing about and get together properly and deal Kaine. Being namby pamby isn't working, allowing him to assault other kids is not being dealt with by the police as the headteacher doesn't feel they will come and sort him out anyway. Using food as a reward is absolutely out of order and I had to politely tell the headteacher that that will not be accepted from now on-he east his dinner but no snacks or drinks while at school....I am not taking him home if he gets excluded because they gave him blackcurrant pop and kicked off! I've got a NCH worker telling me I should force Kaine to go to Boys Brigade for his own good-oh yeah I will take him kicking and screaming and let them kick him out the brigade before he even has a 6 week trial, what's that going to do to his confidence. he is not in the right frame of mind to go and I never asked for Boys Brigade-it was a choice we got pushed into, I asked for swimming and cubs and cricket. The he goes and rings school and then school practically tell me off for not getting him to go...I mean who's the bloody parent here! I am sick and tired of people who have no idea of the violence he causes and disruption and they want me to let him loose in public!! The headteacher sent a Safeguarding Children at School report as she is concerned about his own safety and the safety of others-we consented straight away, I mean he has attacked his peers on several occasions! And what happens-nothing, nothing because they don't want to get involved with Kaine and even when the head told me that she was informed that someone would ring me within a week, it has been 2 weeks. So me being me, rang the person the head sent the form to and got a polite, I am lying as they never said they would contact me-the cheeky git! he then tells me that he hasn't got a record of any police being involved in regards to Kaine so I politely said well I have a crime number and the names of the 2 police officers that came to our house! Where do they get off, trying to call me a liar when I got plenty of evidence to confirm this all. I think the shit is going to hit the fan as this guy is turning up to our Multi -Agency Meeting...the ironic thing is he told me today that all he does is keep a copy of the report, he doesn't check up on anything, he just tells the school to send a report to the Child Services Team. He says it's nothing to do with him, so why he is coming is ironic. We have the educational psychologist wanting to say to the clinical psychologist that he thinks Kaine has traits of Aspergers.... We have the clinical psychologist wanting to tell the Social Services that he is requesting Respite be offered to us... The Social Services are saying they won't help us at all... The Disability Team say we can't have respite care... The Risk Assessment on Isabella is incomplete and has so many errors in it which we have complained about... The GP and Psychiatrist have put in official complaints as the guidelines on time doing the Risk Assessment were not met and the Social Services had told the Risk Assessment team not to do it which goes against the guidelines of a GP requesting one... The Psychiatrist wants an Independent review into our case as he thinks it has been handled appallingly... The headteacher and the school SENCO which is also his teacher also think he has traits of autism and want to tell that to the clinical psychologist... The clinical psychologist said with he way Kaine plays with him in their Play Sessions he wouldn't have thought Kaine even has ADHD although 3 psychiatrist have confirmed this-none of which can attend the flaming meeting... Everyone will be telling someone what they want and it will all go belly up-it is going to be rather uncomfortable and I have been politely told that the guy from NCH and other people will condemn me for not accepting the NCH support by forcing Kaine to boys brigade...I have also been told that the headteacher wants no talking about the past and we need to look forward... Everything we do is based on the past, I expect people who say they will offer us something to actually do it and when they don't I don't sit on my ass and look happy BUT god forbid anyone that asks me what my opinion is because if they do all hell will break loose, I will speak my mind and probably piss of some more people and I will be angry and frustrated too which means they will use that against me and say 'well it's no wonder Kaine is aggressive if this is the way you react'. The thing is I have fought for my son for 10 years and am getting sick of the lame excuses they come up with when they say they can't do anything. I won't stand back and let my son destroy his life because he isn't being supported properly and if one more person gives him the excuse of it's his ADHD then I will yell. So what if it's ADHD-we find a solution that works and we keep doing it until kaine is able to sit in a class and not shout F*ck off to his teacher or his peers. Maybe if I sat back and did nothing then they would all be at me saying I am a bad parent and here we are doing all we can and we are getting pissed off by the lack of help that is offered! I should be calm but I am not, I should be enjoying the time I have with 2 kids and watch them grow up and have friends and are able to see a future for them but right no I see black, simply black for Kaine, a life imprison and a life of wasted ability with a sister who wonders why he doesn't visit. www.AnimalAgentz.com http://darkangel6976.stumbleupon.com