New approach wasn't good.....

Yesterday was the first play therapy session where an adult went in the room with my son and the psychologist. My husband was anxious and rather reluctant to do this but the day before the psychologist had said that it might help so we decided to say ok. My husband was to play with my son with the psychologist. Now I left them to it and went of with our daughter to do some shopping, eagerly awaiting the results.....My husband came out and was a bit quiet. He then went onto tell me how small the psychologist had made him feel! Apparently the only rules in the plat room are that no one is allowed to throw anything. My husband was told that what our son asked him to do he was to do so he did, he asked my husband to pick a toy and then play with it...so my husband did that but the psychologist told him off for playing with it! Apparently he took too long in getting the toy but the thing was the toy he chose was a fire engine and he was in the box getting the ladders!The other thing was that apparently my husband had to act like a 4-7 year old-he didn't tell us this the day before. We were led to believe that we were going in that room to help him play with us not act like a kid! How the hell is acting like a kid going to help him have a relationship with us? Apparently my husband realised why he likes going to play there as he can do as he pleases, my husband said that he was allowed to do stuff in the room that we wouldn't allow at home like deliberatly get sand all over the floor-of course a parent would say something but my husband wasn't acting like a parent so he said nothing and my husband got the distinct feeling this was frown upon with the psychologist.He had a real cheesy grin when my husband got told off, as he saw it as my best friend (psychologist) has told you off ha ha. My husband felt like walking out but stayed in there for 55 mins and he said it was the longest 55 mins of his life, he hated it as he felt every move he made was wrong and was looked upon wrong. He picked the toy and then sat in the chair and the other two sat on the floor-even this didn't go down too well but my husband had not known waht to do as we weren't told anything at all, how to act, how to react, what to say, how to play and what to do about anything! My husband went to play on the floor with them and he felt so awkward after he was told off that he was on edge for the rest of the time-this wouldn't have been good for the whole situation and if he thinks when it comes to my turn that I am guna take that then he will get a shock.All this nicy nicy with him isn't allowing anyone to see him for what he actually does so I have a thought up my sleeve. When it comes to my turn I am guna act like a child and say stuff-we all know sometimes children don't want to play with each other and they fight over toys so how about I fight over a toy and bang it and have a tantrum and try and get him all worked up so then the psycholoist gets the real picture of how he reacts! I will not go and play politely and I will not be spoken to inapporpriately if I don't know the rules as it was totally out of order for my husband to be told off when we haven't got the foggiest idea what we are supposed to do! I intend to tell the psychologist just how upset my husband was as when my husband was telling me he had tears in his eyes-he isn't over sensitive in the slightest but to be humilated in front of the kid that is happily wrecking our lives and already insulting us like it is normal conversation-this just gave him even more power and yet another thing he can throw in our faces and we are supposed to be helping him learn how to behave and work with us not give him a reason to laugh at us!To say the least I am not happy at all with this and a part of me thinks 'go to hell, you expect us to know what you want us to do by telepathy!' The psychologist said it was a little unorthadox and he was changing the play sessions-apparently this type of therapy is called a weird name and he was kind of adapting this kind of play so just maybe he hadn't even thought it through properly.Not happy, not happy at all. www.AnimalAgentz.com http://darkangel6976.stumbleupon.com