A new approach....

We had another meeting with my son's psychologist today and he said as the therapy isn't making headway he was going to try something a bit different, he was going to introduce my husband into the play therapy and see how that goes for a few weeks and then let it be me. He said it was a bit unusual but he thought it was worth a try as things are just deteriating still. This will be very interesting as we can summise that my son will be great with my husband and pretend all is well and we will see whether my son is annoyed that my husband has not been infiltrated into my son's sessions as my son absolutley adores and kisses his psychologists ass a lot! Thank god the psychologist sees right through it and he will make sure that my son leads the play to see how it goes. We had a good chat about my son just simply not being able to function mentally and emotionally and he is irrational as ever, no matter what anyone does he will destroy any friendship and relationship and he can not control or stop himself from doing this as he has not got the cognitive ability to figure this out.The psychologist said no cognitive, alternative, mediation will touch him as he can't figure out things using his frontal lobe system as he is too far gone. he needs stimuli to use his frontal lobe system and that's why hypnotherapy which I suggested wouldn't tough the surface!There still has been no response regarding specialised respite care so yet again the psychologist will be getting back on the phone and trying to get them to bluddy move. He agreed with me when I said if it's all about money why can't we just kill 2 birds with 1 stone, he can't go to mainstream school and sowhy can't we put him in residential school-this way he gets specialised schooling and we get a break and then when he comes home at the weekend we will have the strength and love to spend the whole weekend with him and just be with him as we can do all we need to during the week-a cost effect solution but to even get this we need his Statement of Education, another thing we are waiting to hear about.I hope that my son when he is older realises that I never gave up on him and that I tried to move heavenand earth for him to get help. I hope that he is able to remember at least a few good times when he recalls his childhood.....cos from the way I see it, my son's life has been a serious of shitty events, health concerns and operations and tests that have gone on for years, a mountain of heartache, remorse and aggression and very few moments of clarity and hope.But when I said to the psychologist that I was worried about him getting depressed when older he said it is unlikely due to his condition not being pre-determined and more due to the events and the way Kiane has dealt or not being able to deal with them. My son merely exists in a world where everyone is a threat and nothing he does lasts to be able to change that vision. Apparently my son has projected the painful, resentful, upsetting, aggressive relationship he had with his biological father onto his step father and this is thus destroying his relationship with his step father and us as a family. It is not his fault but his biological father's and as the psychologist I have exhausted every avenue where his biological father could make amends to my son. He was distant, aggressive and kept letting him down through out his life and this is how he believes a father son relationship should be even though we have tried to rectify this but due to him being so confused and unable to make sense of this he can only destroy the relationship with anyone now......I sometimes wish I could put his biological father on trial for the damage he has caused my son-yeah I even class him as my son not our son as he wasn't much of a part time father let alone when he was a full time one in the spare moments he could be bothered to be a father.I hope that one day the sun will come out for our family and that he will truly understand what I have tried to do for him was show him, love and comfort and piss everyone off so much that they turned around and said ok yep we will help....if they say no then that will be the end of my son's life according to the psychologist so I hope for their sake that they don't cos if they do you will next be reading all this in every national newspaper and TV and radio channel there is...no one stands by and lets my son go to hell due to money, no one!