What a mother's day that turned out to be!

MOTHERS DAY 2009 Well Saturday was exciting and very good as I was given the news that a plot was available on an allotment site that I had put my name down on last year! The site is great and the people are very friendly and it has even got insurance and if I thought that wasn't the clincher then the fact that they have even rotivated the whole plot was!So Sunday came and I had cards and presents and a lovely meal cooked and it was a lazy day until...He decide he wanted to play out late afternoon and he knows the rules-he plays with 2 people only and if they are not in he is to come straight back, if he wants to go somewhere else he is to come home first and tell us.So off he toddles with his scooter and we think all is well until it starts to get dark and it's past the time when the other 2 people would go in. So Nick goes to both of their houses to find him not there and to be told he left them some time ago, panic starts to set in!Nick comes back and then starts a search of the estate only to find him with a spray can and a group of people that he shouldn't be with-most of them are in his class at school but one of them is a teenager!His scooter has been spray painted on, the climbing wall of our local park has his name sprayed on it and broken glass is outside an elderly person bungalow.....he admits in this avant gard way with no regard to anyone that he sprayed his name broke all the glass bottles onto the floor and doesn't give a hoot for anyone else's safety!I was wondering whether to call the police to report him awol but my thoughts then turned to a boy that has no respect for the law or for other people. he has spilled his behaviour straight onto the paths of the public and sprayed his 'I just don't give a shit attitude' all over someone else's property.His attitude was diabolic, disrespectful and he didn't care whether anyone would be hurt with all the glass over the public path where young children walk to school and older people access their homes. No amount of reasoning that night or the following morning was sinking into this boy that belongs to me!A boy who goes against everything I stand for and everything I have brought him up to be. I did not recognise this boy at all and resented him with intolerance and disgust that the boy that once made me smile with pride (yes a long time ago) had made me feel ashamed that he belonged to me.He was warned that we would be speaking to our local PCSO about the situation, he knows the PCSO as he comes into school and plays a vital role in our community and he has helped us try and keep Kaine on the straight and narrow path. I left a message on the Monday morning for him to ring me but on my way down into town we realised that a PCSO wouldn't be able to do what we had to do-press charges.Now some of you may say that informing the police of what you own child has done is really bad but for us it was the only thing we could do to be responsible parents and show him that breaking the law was not to be accepted. If we did nothing we would not be helping him but reinforcing that he is able to get away with anything and we have strived for at least the past 2 years with police matters to make him realise he has to take responsibility for his actions.I did not feel guilty as we spoke and informed them of what he had admitted to, I did not feel any betrayal towards this child that so freely thinks the world is his own to do with as he pleases. This child needed to learn and learn before he was commiting even worse crimes.We were told even though he had admitted to it, if there was no report when it actually happened then they may not be able to do anything unless his attitude was negative or he admitted to police when they arrived! This somewhat annoyed me as I thought the little sod is going to get away with this and think he is invincible so I raised my concerns and told them about the PCSO and they decided that he should be the one to contact me that afternoon.So when he did he asked me what I wanted to do and I plainly said throw the book, 3 police offers had already spoken to Kaine previously before he was 10 over the past 2 years and nothing had stuck and all we saw was a kid spiralling out of control. It was time to make a stand legally, it was time to show Kaine the law and what it meant and why we had rules in place.We hoped that this time maybe just this time it would work so to cut the story down-he was reported for Criminal Damage as the Community Centre wanted to press charges and we wanted them to as well. The braking of glass was classed as Anti-Social Behaviour and that cold be dealt with by the PCSO.My son has to report to the Police Station for his Reprimand, his photo to be taken along with finger prints and DNA.We also decided that he would publicly wash the spray paint off the wall and the floor and remove the glass and I hope that when we are informed of when this can happen that there is a very large crowd that will take notice, apparently this is used as a deterent for the child not to repeat the offence as the humiliation makes them feel guilty.My son now has a Criminal Record at the age of 10-me and Nick don't even have that!He has 2 bites of the cherry and if he screws up after that a court appearance will be next-depending on the severity of his next crime as sometimes if it is really bad they go straight to court.My son over the past 2 days has thought all of this is a joke so let's hope when the Sergant down the station gets a piece of him he will realise crimes aren't worth doing!